Question

I suppose that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our at?tention. And especially if it's given from the heart. When people are talking,there's no need to do anything but re?ceive them. Listen to what they're saying. Care about it. Most time caring about it is even more important than un?derstanding it. Most of us don't value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simply saying "I'm so sorry"? when someone is in pain.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand,we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen,they know we care.

I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the hand?kerchiefs,until I realized that passing a person a handker-  chief may be just another way to shut him down,to take i them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. i When they have cried all they need to cry,they find me there with them. , This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It . certainly went against everything I had been taught since I¹ was very young.  I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.

23. What does the author value most in the communica?tion with each other?

   A. Deep understanding.

   B. Saying "I'm sorry."

   C. Attention from heart.

   D. Doing nothing.

24. The woman patient stopped telling her story to most people because         .

   A. she didn't get enough respect from others

   B. she was discouraged by being often interrupted

   C. people often told her their own opinions

   D. people couldn't understand her sad situation

 25.        If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying,you may         .

   A. hurt his feelings

   B. make him embarrassed

   C. encourage him to continue to cry

   D. stop him from letting out his sorrow

26. It can be inferred from the passage that while communicating,          .

   A. listening is a perfect way to respond to others

   B. people keep silent because they don't know the answer

   C. keeping silent means being too shy to speak

   D. it is easy to form the habit of listening silently

Answer 1

當(dāng)別人向你傾訴時，是選擇默默地傾聽，還是用語言來安慰對方？哪一種更合適，作者給出了自己的答案。

23. C推理判斷題。作者認(rèn)為，"默默地用心傾聽"效果更好。文章最后一句"But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words."也說明了作者的觀點。

24. B細(xì)節(jié)理解題。文章第二段中的"…when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people."說明當(dāng)別人打斷她的講述，說自己也有相似的經(jīng)歷的時候，她的痛苦似乎已經(jīng)變成了"聽話人"的經(jīng)歷，雙方注意的焦點發(fā)生了轉(zhuǎn)移，她無法再繼續(xù)"傾訴"下去了。

25. D細(xì)節(jié)理解題。文章第三段中的"…passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down,to take them out of their experience of sadness."說明遞給對方手絹擦拭眼淚的言外之意就是"停下來，不要再哭訴了"，這樣哭訴的人的痛苦就得不到釋放了。

26. A推理判斷題。根據(jù)本文作者的論述可知，作者傾向于"傾聽"而不是"安慰"。